Thursday, August 25, 2011

Facebook Church?

Last week I was driving down the road, minding my own business and listening (the radio was off), when an interesting phrase popped up in my head/spirit: Facebook Church. What was really intriguing about this event is that lately, for some reason or other, I've been really struggling to understand the whole concept of Facebook, since it and its counterparts have become such a pervasive part of our culture, in order to come up with ways to integrate it into my spiritual mission to spread the Good News of the Gospel and bring people into the Kingdom of God. Now, all of a sudden, I'm hearing "Facebook Church" and I'm wondering, is the word "church" in this case talking about a place we go to worship, or is it referring to the "real" Church, the Body of Christ...the population of Believers? And how does that tie into Facebook?

As a Baby-boomer, I grew up in an environment where one's privacy was paramount, or at least, guarded and protected...Accidental, or even intentional, expose' of one's private thoughts or goings-on was obnoxious, if not scandalous. Before everyone had clothes dryers, even hanging one's freshly washed laundry out to dry was exposing more about one's self and family then one cared to reveal. Here's a good example of the pursuit of privacy: The first telephone my family had was on a "party" line, meaning that 3 or 4 families were on the same phone line; the way you knew if a call was for your family was by the number of rings in each ring set. The problem, of course, was that anyone could "accidentally" pick up the phone and listen in on the other parties' phone calls; you didn't mind listening in to hear other people's conversations, but you certainly didn't want them listening in on yours and picking up on guarded truths about your private life! So you can bet that AT&T (Ma Bell) was pressured into working overtime to develop a network of private lines for everyone, and that customers quickly found the funds to acquire and maintain them. Even tapping someone's phone line became a crime, unless you had one of those infamous "Federal" warrants.

But then along came the internet and mobile phones, and an amazing inversion began to take place...almost imperceptibly at first, but now increasingly prolific. As phones became "unplugged," access to private conversations, albeit mostly one-sided, moved from kitchens, living rooms and bedrooms to restaurants, ball games and shopping areas. And as we "plugged" into computers and the internet, our sphere of influence and relationships moved from family, church, school and workplace to social network sites, chat rooms and forums, websites and, of course, "Tweets," with their seemingly infinite number of contacts extending into every region of the earth. But as this phenomena began to take hold and take over our lives, an interesting transition began to take place: As individuals, we went from being fish in a pond to being minnows in a sea, and that doesn't sit well with our basic human psyche. Whether we admit it or not, a basic need of all "normal" humans is to be recognized, accepted and appreciated (or some variation of those themes) by the members or potential members of our social spheres. (I think this is graphically illustrated in the explosion of tattoos, piercings and wardrobe anomalies we are experiencing in our culture these days in an obvious attempt to declare one's individuality.) As a result, the "amazing inversion" which I mentioned is taking place is this: Whereas we used to use privacy to maintain our individuality and attract other members to our "network", we now increasingly use the opposite, i.e., public exposure of our private things, to do the same thing!

Unfortunately, the insidious risk of this behavior is the trident of the Facebook phenomena: 1) We risk exposing ourselves to nefarious people who would do us harm; 2) Too little information about ourselves invites misinformation and disinformation; 3) Too much information about ourselves can unintentionally alienate those we are trying to attract. And yet, we accept the risk in ever increasing numbers, like moths hovering around a warm, open flame, in order to "connect"...and be "accepted"...and be "noticed." In fact, this urge is so strong that more and more frequently we hear in the news of yet another famous politician, pop singer, actor or other already public personality risking all that they are and everything that they have by placing the most intimate of photographs and videos of their private parts and and sexual activities on the internet without considering the inevitable outcome: That eventually someone will discover their post and expose it for all the world to see. Tragically, the ultimate dive into the pool of self-esteem results in nothing more than a leap into a dry hole cloaked in the mirage of one's ultimate importance...One that leaves us bloodied and broken and wondering, "What happened?" And yet, what is happening is clearly described in God's Word, the Bible; Matt 10:39 says, "Whoever finds his life will lose it, and whoever loses his life for my sake will find it."

So how does all of this tie into the concept of "Facebook Church"? I still don't know for sure...I'm waiting and "listening" (praying, if you will) for some guidance from the Holy Spirit. In my own research, I came across an interesting article titled "How Facebook Killed the Church" by a Richard Beck, a Professor at Abilene Christian University [(http://experimentaltheology.blogspot.com/2010/03/how-facebook-killed-church.html) hope you can take time to read this article and resulting comments and let me know what some of your thoughts are about it], which convincingly argues that Facebook has effectively killed the traditional church, at least among young people; and yet, in contrast to this article, I bet you didn't know that the #1 Most Active Page on Facebook is the Jesus Daily Facebook Page by a physician named Aaron Tabor. Anyhow, I'm throwing all this out there because I would be very much interested in hearing your thoughts and suggestions on the matter, especially if you can help me to better understand the dynamics behind the whole "social network" thing. Believe me, your input would be greatly appreciated.




6 comments:

  1. Interesting -- before you mentioned the other article, I was wondering if facebook and computer interaction was hurting the church and actual personal interaction. You're so right about the need in us to be "known" by as many people as possible, hence the popularity of the whole facebook thing. I always thought about how we are made in God's image, and maybe if I want so badly to be known, I can get a small sense of how deeply God himself wants to be known. I'm not really on facebook -- I have a fake name so I can keep tabs on Marty in Korea -- but I struggle constantly over whether I should bite the bullet and do it. Am I being anti-social when I am anti-social-networking? I have no idea what a facebook church would be -- I tend to feel that a face-to-face church is the only way to get the true fellowship we crave. There's a false sense of intimacy on the web, and I don't think it will ever replace the real thing -- as much as it may try. Of course, I may just be the old man who said those metal machines with wheels would never be able to replace living breathing horses!

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  2. Participating in Facebook, blogging, etc. always leaves me with a nagging sense of unfulfillment. It’s great to be able to share music/videos/photos/writing etc. with the world, but as a substitute for real face time I just find it lacking. Call me a Luddite. As for church, I think God can use these tools, but to me the most powerful way to reveal God to others is through practicing/reflecting God’s love as much as we are able. And I’m just not sure of the effectiveness of social media as a conduit for the expression of genuine love, at least in my experience.

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  3. Ah, the cold-hearted mistress of the web. We are seduced into it time and time again, only to find little comfort and even less true interaction. I have met people I have known - and liked! - on the internet for years, only to be disenchanted with them in person.
    It is the rare person who can effectively communicate their true self through this medium, and you brought up great points about the ease with which we can misrepresent ourselves to others.

    My profession demands that I maintain a social media presence, though I often struggle with what I should be sharing. My hope is that I represent myself in a manner consistent with my true persona -so that if someone meets me in person, they will be able to recognize the person they conversed with for months or years.

    Perhaps with the unfulfillment that Andy spoke of, more people than we realize could be craving something more real in this very surreal medium. Maybe that's why Facebook Church came to you.
    Best of luck with whatever that may develop into!

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  4. Kara,
    Thanks so much for the wonderful and insightful comments. I really liked your interesting thoughts on our likeness to God even in the area of wanting to be known. I never thought of it that way, but it makes great sense.

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  5. AndyMc,

    Thanks for your thought-filled comments. I thought your comment about Facebook not being a substitute for real face time was a very succinct way to put it. Also, I very much agree with your suggestion on the best way to reveal God to others, which is another argument for preferring "face time" over Facebook, but that's the dilemma...What do you do with the Facebook generation to move them to "face time".

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  6. EK,

    I was hoping you would be able to give me some insight into this subject, being the master blogger and tweeter that you are, and you came through...thanks so much! I love your characterization of being seduced by the "cold hearted mistress of the web"; splendid way to put it. But most helpful is your experience of meeting someone in person after a long web relationship, only to be disenchanted by the experience...that's one of the dynamics I wondered about, having no experience of my own in that area. I have also gleaned a little better understanding of this networking thing through observing your skillful use of your blog, Facebook and Twitter to successfully promote your professional career and by reading the responses and comments you have gotten in the process...very helpful stuff.

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